Posted: June 26, 2023
Hospitality is important. There probably aren’t many who would disagree, but what “hospitality” exactly means can be another matter. Just ask Chaplain Jim Kok of Holly Creek Life Plan Community, who recently returned from a four-month stint in Algeria.
Kok joined his wife in the city of Laghouat, Algeria, for part of her 10-month term teaching English with the State Department’s English Language Fellow program. While he also learned to overcome the challenges of working remotely as a chaplain, one of the biggest things Kok took away from his time in Algeria was a completely new concept of what it means to be welcomed.
Algerian culture is centered around the concept of hospitality. “Every house has a parlor just for welcoming guests and making sure they are comfortable,” Kok said. In fact, during a visit to southern Algeria, he was told that tradition dictates if someone asks to stay with a stranger, the stranger should put them up immediately and not even ask who they are for the first three days.
Kok came away with no shortage of eye-opening examples, from being served a feast during Ramadan — while none of their Muslim hosts was eating during the day — to being invited over for coffee by a young stranger who knew English and overheard him and his wife while shopping.
“After chatting for 2 or 3 minutes, he invited us to his home for coffee and dessert. We were hesitant, but eventually went, met his mother, and enjoyed their hospitality,” Kok said. “I would probably not do that in the U.S., but we talked to people who said that this kind of thing happens all the time. That’s a part of the culture there — such generous hospitality. Even though we are hospitable here, it is usually not to that extent.”
Kok and his wife were also welcomed into a local cultural center where they were able to “build relationships with a number of musicians.” Four to five times a week the couple walked the half hour from their home to the center. “We were able to go and sit in this room, and some people would just show up… I play the guitar, and they graciously welcomed me in to play some things.”
As one of very few Americans in the country, Kok quickly experienced “what it feels like to be an outsider in a culture that I don’t understand and a language I don’t know.” But he also discovered “how that kind of feeling can be overcome by overwhelming hospitality and kindness.”
Algeria’s “radical hospitality” bridged the gap.
“The relationships and welcome made all the difference,” Kok said. “The language and cultural differences become less important because they just wanted you to feel at home.”
Kok is glad to be back in person with the residents at Holly Creek, as he especially missed the opportunities to share face-to-face conversations while he was away. The concept of Algerian hospitality, however, is one he hopes will reinvigorate in his own duties and share with both Holly Creek and its parent organization Christian Living Communities (CLC) as well.
“We were embraced with such kindness and caring by the people of Laghouat. For my work as a chaplain, exhibiting this kind of welcome and generosity of spirit are essential,” he said.
As he reflects on radical generosity, Kok is pleased with the ways Holly Creek and other CLC communities incorporate care in each interaction and excited for ways they can continue to grow.
“Since our intent as an organization is to make people feel at home, then we must continue to think about new ways of welcoming people to help them feel important and loved. At times in Algeria, the incredible welcome we received didn’t seem right because we didn’t feel like we deserved it. But that’s not the point,” he added. “It’s about making someone know that they are cared about unconditionally.”
That new perspective is something he will take back to in-person pastoral care as he cares for Holly Creek residents and leads CLC’s pastoral team.
“I was reminded of the power of our relationships,” he concluded, “and how sometimes the people in our lives can make all the difference in how we live our days.”
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